Matt
The Boyz at a Raiders Game (Mike, Matt, Dave, Phil)
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This is a space to learn more about Matt and his family, and to share your stories and condolences.
I see you in the sky above, the tall grass, and the ones I love
You're gonna make me lonesome when you go
-Bob Dylan
I remember Matt as a witty, funny, boundary-pushing friend. I will always regret not reaching out to him after he apologized for his drug-related antisocial behavior toward me. In many ways, Matt was a far better man than I am. I cherish the memories I have of him and all the friends we once shared together. "Me like pussy," indeed, Matt. here's to you.
ReplyDeleteI just learned yesterday, Dec 20, of Matt's passing.
ReplyDeleteI have been busy finishing med school, in Denver; and so, do not regularly check mail.
For the Holiday's, I'm at my parents now, in Portland, where my Reed mail collects. I was catching up on it yesterday; and was saddened to learn of Matt's passing.
I want to extend my condolences to all of Matt's family and friends and loved ones. I recognize the profound tolls (emotional and otherwise) that the sudden loss of a loved one creates. So, my thoughts are with all of Matt's family, friends, and loved ones.
Last night, I had a chance to reflect on my memories of Matt. Here are some of them.
In the first couple of days I was at Reed (during orientation infact), Matt was the first
person I met. For whatever reasons, he sought me out and introduced himself. We quickly established a friendship that lasted from those first days until years after graduation.
I think it's important to say that I was not a social person in my days at Reed. Instead, I was, for the most part, young and scared and isolated, which reflected in my behavior. I'm not proud of this fact, but that's how I was.
Matt's presence in my life however, from that first meeting, chipped away at my isolation. He repeatedly, over and over, year after year, invited me into the social circles he developed and partipated in. For the most part, I struggled against his invitations and floundered in those circles. But, Matt always kept coming back.
I am indebted to Matt for doing this: He allowed me the opportunity to establish friendships I would not have been able to establish myself.
At Reed, and after, Matt and I had many long conversations about many things: Music, movies, art, literature, philosophy, politics. There is absolutely no doubt in my mind that those
conversations changed me, as a person, for the better.
When I first came to Reed, Matt was far ahead of me in most subjects. I brought some things
to the table, but most of our conversations amounted to Matt teaching me about things I knew nothing about. He introduced me to writers and thought that changed me. Most importantly, he was gracious about it. For example, in some subjects I was self taught and I did not know the correct pronunciations of many of the words. Matt would carefully and respectfully correct me in these points.
Over the years, there were times when I was dissappointed with his choices. Two long
conversations stand out in my mind. I remember aspects of those conversations and remember struggling to understand him and struggling to dissaude him. I remember leaving those conversations knowing that I had been unsuccessful; that he was set on his course.
In later years, we mostly only swapped events, stories and opinions over the phone;
while I was in Texas and he was in Chicago or California. But periodically, every few years,
we would touch base; at times, for hours. I found great challenge, and pleasure and reward
through all of these conversations.
For example, a couple years ago, prior to chosing to switch from industry to medicine, I consulted Matt, several times, over the phone. I listened carefully to his opinions. I appreciated his input on the matter, which influenced and strengthened me to proceed to a life I am now profoundly rewarded by and grateful for.
I believe I owe Matt many thanks for many things he did for me. Over and again he influenced me positively. So I remember Matt, and my friendship with him, with appreciation for his life and sadness for his loss.
Again, my condolences to all
Scott C
Thank you Scott and Nick!
ReplyDeleteThe only things that ease my longing are little memory morsels that make him "come alive" for a moment. It also helps to know other people have been changed by him.
This is my plea to everyone else who knew him...Write, please.
God, I miss him.